Fri 2 Apr 2010
Diary of a Laboring Woman
Posted by lynsie under Parenting
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Yes, that’s right. I’m in labor. Typing a post. While in labor, I’ve also gone grocery shopping, picked up kids from school, cooked dinner, practiced yoga, and more. How is this possible, you ask? If I were you and not in labor, I would be asking the same thing. Whenever I heard of women in labor, they always sounded like they were in too much distress and discomfort to do anything but moan. Well, as it turns out, there’s a side of labor that is JUST NOT DISCUSSED. We’re talking about prodromal labor. And I am here to say, while every woman is quite different in how they respond to and experience prodromal labor, my experience has been, dare I say, pleasant? Perhaps that’s a deceiving word, but compared to what I thought labor would feel like, I am so relieved to know that, now feeling labor, I am quite comfortable with its pace, physicality, and more.
First of all, what is prodromal labor? Well, because few books even offer this vocab word up in their indexes, what I’ve had to do is look into this side of labor online, referencing other laboring women’s and doulas’ experiences. Basically, leading up to the day that a woman’s baby is born, she experiences a wide range of different contraction-like symptoms. (Do keep in mind that some women are either not aware of these contractions or simply do not experience them.) Braxton Hicks are “painless” practice contractions in which the uterus tightens and releases sporadically beginning in the second trimester, but for some women, especially, it seems, those who experience prodromal labor, Braxton Hicks (BH) occur at the onset of pregnancy or in the first trimester, and continue through the entire pregnancy. This was the case with me. Also, BH can be accompanied by lower abdominal cramping. My midwife made sure I knew that if I ever began to experience cramping along with my BH, to call her immediately. (While my false labor began around week 31, my prodromal labor, looking back, did not start until week 32.) Once I began to experience this cramping with contractions, around week 32, I called my midwife and was asked to come in to have an internal exam. At the time, my cervix was long, hard, and closed. This was two weeks ago. Also, this was not accompanied by bleeding of any kind. If you experience bleeding, call your practitioner immediately.
Closer to the baby’s due date, if BH pick up and begin to simulate real labor, they are known as false labor. Different entirely is what is known as prodromal labor. While false labor is irregular, typically painless, and stops when a woman eats, drinks, walks, rests or bathes, prodromal labor is the opposite and much closer in its appearance to real labor. In fact, most women who experience prodromal labor say there is nothing false about it! After three weeks of prodromal labor, I have finally caved and started to refer to myself as being in labor, albeit early, early labor, but labor nonetheless. Here’s why:
Prodromal labor is regularly timed contractions, or if not that, then at least they do not stop when one follows the Bradley Method principles of eating, drinking, walking, resting, or bathing. In fact, prodromal labor can often pick up when one engages in activity, which is how I first clued myself in to the fact that what I was experiencing was not, in fact, false labor. Also, prodromal labor is accompanied by a range of low-grade pain. From menstrual-like cramps and diarrhea-like cramps to slightly toe-curling pangs, no matter your pain tolerance, it is obvious that the contractions experienced in prodromal labor are different from regular BH. Also, a woman can experience low back, groin, and upper thigh pain when having a prodromal contraction. Prodromal labor can also bring on nausea, a lack of appetite, fatigue and weakness, which is why it is SO very important to still eat, drink, and rest throughout this process. Finally, prodromal labor can last a couple of days or a few weeks. From my research, I have found that it is more rare for a woman to experience this kind of labor for weeks leading up to the birth of her baby, but I am going on 3 weeks now, so I am a testament to its possibility. Also, a woman who has experienced prodromal labor with all three of her births is an EXCELLENT resource in understanding and relating to this experience. Check out Sarah’s FrogBlog. I have found great comfort in reading her pages and pages of first-hand prodromal experience. She has made me feel like I am not alone, and hopefully she’ll help you or someone you know feel the same.
While Sarah’s contractions were more sporadic and mine are more regular, we can both understand the experience of prodromal labor in the way she so intelligently puts it in her blog, hence her blog’s title. Being in prodromal labor is like being a frog in a cold pot of water that begins to boil at a slow and steady rate. By the time you’re in active labor, or in boiling water, it’s very hard to tell, since you’ve become so accustomed to labor’s sensations. This is highly different from the majority of women out there, who wake up with relatively strong contractions that lead within a day’s time to the birth of their baby. I think one could look at prodromal labor (and I’ve certainly read plenty of accounts) as a horrible, painful punishment. Already, frequently when I’ve reached out to friends to tell them of my prodromal experience, they all respond saying how sorry they are that I’m in so much pain. Funny, though, that I never mentioned the word “pain” in my correspondence with them. For me, prodromal labor is like a mediocre period, nothing more, albeit a tad annoying and confusing. The way I see it, as far as a first pregnancy goes, I am beyond THRILLED that my body actually knows what to do! I feel secure, comforted, and excited to know that this baby and I are working together. My concerns simply lie in the fact that I won’t know when to actually call my midwife to go in to the hospital, as I most likely will be unable to go by the typical signposts: either emotional or timing-wise. Even with my Bradley Method classes behind me, when I first began experiencing prodromal labor, my experienced Bradley teacher was even stumped. I am now sharing my experience with her so she can share it with others. On the upside, I have heard of women, who after much prodromal labor, are able to deliver their babies in a few short hours. This, known as precipitous birth, is rare, but is known to happen with prodromal laborers.
If I happened to go by what my midwife would like to see when I make that call, announcing my real labor, then I would have called days ago. When I first started experiencing prodromal labor, I was not timing the contractions. Over the past week I have been periodically timing my contractions, and as of two days ago my contractions were 14 minutes apart when resting and 4 minutes apart when walking slowly. Some were more intense (I hate to use the word painful) than others. Some I could talk and walk through, others I could not. ALL were completely different in how long they lasted. The average for me is between 1:30 and 2:30 minutes. Those that are either weak or less than 30 seconds I do not even time or count, just as Sarah has done. I was doing this before I started reading her blog, too! It just felt right to only count the ones that seemed to be doing something. As of last night, I awoke to strong cramping and contractions, and went to take a bath from 2 am to 5 am. I then lay back in bed and was able to fall asleep until 7 am, when I became aware of the cramping again. (Just to note: this cramping is lower abdominal cramping, like menstrual cramps, and is accompanied by painless BH contractions/tightening in a melon-sized circle around my belly button.) Upon waking, and telling my husband what was going on, he suggested we time them, and when we did found the contractions to be 3-4 minutes apart lasting 1-2 minutes. Now, according to my midwife, if this were to go on for 2 hours, I owe her a call, but I just don’t “feel” like it’s time. It’s already been going on for three hours, and while I’m still lying in bed, I just don’t feel like the baby is ready to make an appearance. Just in case, I do have my husband on call! Could this be the frog-in-water scenario?
I also want to point out, in as great a detail as possible, what else I feel when I experience my contractions, so that you women out there who are wondering what it is you’re feeling or experiencing can relate your process to mine. So, on a small contraction, I merely feel tightening around my belly button (which I sometimes have to feel with my hand to make sure is there) and dull lower cramping. For a stronger contraction, I often know one is coming because I immediately feel an overwhelming amount of pressure on my rectum and urethra, like I’ve “gotta go!” This is then accompanied by tightening and lower cramping. Finally, if the contraction is really bad, I have all of the above symptoms, plus pain on one side of my cervix (usually for me the left) accompanied by nausea and a dull aching in my left groin, left hip and upper left thigh (sometimes my low back into my butt). I even get a little shaky, just the way I used to when my period came on fast and I got cramps before I had time to take advil and let it kick in. For the really bad ones, if I’m walking, I feel a tugging from behind my belly button down to my vagina, and I must stop walking or talking and hold onto the underside of my big belly. Also, my stool has been much looser, which is a typical sign that body is clearing out the bowels for the commencement of labor.
Finally, I must state that I have suffered from Endometriosis from the onset of my period at age 11. I have no idea if the Endo or the young age at which I got my period are any indication as to why I am experiencing prodromal labor, but I would love to hear feedback from others with this same history. I have often thought labor would be less “painful” of an experience for me due to the pain I became used to experiencing with my Endo, so it IS possible, I guess, that this is why prodromal labor is not as bad for me. I do not, however, want to hinder anyone else’s experience of pain in this matter, as everyone is just so different.
Just to be clear, as well, all of my symptoms are happening quite early in this pregnancy. I am 34 weeks 1 day pregnant, which my midwife has said is not ideal for going into labor, but is not too early that she will stop my labor once it has started. Therefore, I could be in the hospital tonight or in 6 weeks. I will say that my women’s intuition has always said this baby would come early. There have been many times, in fact, when my husband and I have questioned our dates, since this kind of prodromal labor does not usually start til 36 weeks, and if I am 4 weeks more pregnant than my records state, I would have been exactly 36 weeks when my labor started. I believe we shall soon see…
Thank you for your link! I am glad to hear you have found my experiences a validation of what you’re experiencing.
I can relate to your referece of your Bradley teacher being unaware of this labor pattern. Mine doesn’t even believe it exists–still! (Part of the reason I am becoming a Bradley teacher myself–the word needs to get out.) I have found this to be the general attitude of “people who know.” It is what sparked me to create my blog in the first place.
I enjoyed reading this post, and am linkng to it! You describe your experience in great detail, and that is important for others searching on the internet to see if they’re crazy! I imagine this post will be a validation to some of my readers as well!
I do hope you’ve cooked that baby longer. . . I’d love to hear how it all goes/went!
Sarah! It is so wonderful to hear from you. I have MORE than enjoyed reading your blog and have found such solace in it. Prodromal labor is such a difficult topic because since most women don’t experience it, they really do have trouble truly “believing” that there are women like us out there that really can be in labor and be operating on our daily schedules.
Just for the record, my amazing Bradley teacher does accept my experiences and validates them, even though she has rarely come across this sort of thing prior to me. She has been a great support! I too, however, have made some somewhat far-reaching plans to become a Bradley teacher myself as soon as this little one is old enough to allow me to do so. I absolutely love the Bradley Method. My husband practiced it through the pregnancy and birth of his second daughter from his previous marriage, and therefore was the biggest reason that we participated with this pregnancy.
Thank you for your compliments about the detail in which I describe my experiences. I do think it’s so important to describe every feeling, twinge, etc in great detail so that others can relate. Your blog helped me understand this, as perhaps I would not even have known I was experiencing prodromal labor without wading and relating to your experiences!
Just to update you, as of a week and a half ago I was checked by my midwife (not very Bradley but glad I did it!) and I was found to be 50% effaced. This is a relief to know that all of these contractions are doing something. I go back on Monday and hopefully will hear more progressive news. Any way we slice it, at least we know the baby is coming soon, however earlier this week I did hit a bit of a road block because I started to feel frustrated at all the starts and stops. There have been a few nights where I really truly thought that we would be making the call to the midwife. I have to admit, I am a bit worried that I will not be able to recognize hard labor in time.
My contractions occasionally stop me in my tracks and I have difficulty breathing and talking through a handful of them per day. I also awaken to the really intense ones a few times each night. This has all been going on for 5 weeks now, with each week increasing slowly in intensity (the frog effect!) so I do feel like the only woman out there who has experienced prodromal labor for this long! How did you do it when you had no one to relate to? My due date is technically May 13th, however I have thought that we were off on dates the entire pregnancy, so if we are off by about 4 weeks, then I would be due this weekend, which feels “right” according to what my body is going through. I would love to hear your thoughts on this! What changed for you on the day or days leading up to hard labor, anything that you can remember distinctly?
Thanks so much for letting me know, and again for writing your blog. I can’t wait to hear how your upcoming pregnancy & labor go!
Oh, Lynsie! I’m so sorry I’m just now checking your blog again. I realized I’d never updated the post on my blog about your labor/birth, and wanted to find out if you’d had the baby yet.
So, I really do hope and actually *think* that you have had that child by now! And I also hope you or your hubby was able to recognize any “differences” that turned your labor into birth before it happened! That really is one of the biggest challenges about this labor pattern. I have a friend who accidentally had her baby at home because of this labor pattern (everything turned out okay). She’s *planning* a home birth next time!
Please let me know if you post your birth story! I want to read it!
Sarah! It’s so great to hear from you. As I type, I am holding two-week old Gabe, who is slowly awaking from a nap very hungry, so this will be quick=) I am actually on the computer today to type up my birth story, which was such an amazing, surprising, rewarding and unexpected experience. Please stay tuned. I’ve been thinking about you often and cannot wait to share!
Can’t wait to read it, Lynsie! Please send me a link when you post the birth story, if you are able!
Congratulations on your baby’s birth!
There IS an end in sight! Praise God! I’m so thankful for women like you and Sarah. Otherwise I would begin to go crazy! I’m getting better at dealing with the contractions – but I thought SURELY that the length of time that I have been pregnant (36 weeks 4 days now) and the fact that I am pregnant with twins would have led to something. Overall, though I am grateful that I have baked them this long – as that is usually not the case – and that I still have time to get some things completed around the house. Thanks for sharing with us!
Natasha! on the run chasing my little crawler around the house, but had to write! I know what you mean about feeling so reassured. That’s how I felt when I found Sarah’s stories! Plenty of care providers and other moms have trouble really understanding this phenomenon. Hang in there! I will tell you that my hard labor experience compared to others I know who did not have prodromal labor was quite different. Perhaps it was because I had become so good at incorporating difficult contractions into my life, but labor was not what I would call painful at all. It made sense and felt good most of the time, thrillingly intense the rest of the time. I loved being in labor and would do it in a heartbeat!! I’ll be thinking about you as you near the end of your pregnancy. Enjoy your beautiful twins.
Just out of curiosity, are you planning for a natural birth?
WOW this is EXACTLY what I am experiencing now. I’m now 38 weeks 1 day and for the past 2 weeks I have been having 6-8hr stretches of very regular contractions increasing in strength and duration and decreasing in frequency only to suddenly just stop or spread out. I have also had all the other signs this could be “it” like the loose BMs, etc. Of course at least so far it hasn’t been “it” yet and I’m wearing down fast. It almost always starts when it gets dark (which is coincidenly when dh gets home from work so I almost feel I am content enough to labor when I know he’s home and my mind stops labor when I feel “unsafe” because he is gone to work the next morning) and lasts all night. I’m tired. I really don’t mind going another 2 weeks to my due date, but wish the prodromal labor would stop and come back when it’s really time.
Kelly, I am so sorry to respond so late! No doubt you’ve had your baby by now, and I would LOVE to hear your birth story and how the rest of your prodromal labor went! I understand you completely when you say that you think your labor picks up when your husband’s home because you feel safe. Since I had prodromal labor pretty much all the time, I can’t make the same connection for myself, but I can tell you that I wasn’t surprised that when I went into hard labor was right around the time that my kids and husband were due home from school and work. I think baby and my body just knew it was time. As I said before, I am anxious to hear how your labor went, but know that these first few weeks and months are all-consuming. With that said, I will check in to your site and see if there’s any news! Congratulations on working so hard.
I know this blog is over a year old but I just have to say THANK YOU Lynsie (and Sarah for your link to this blog) … Ive been coming online through all of my pregnancy reading tips and stories and this is the first and only time I have felt truly compelled to log a response. I am 39 weeks today and have been experiencing what I understand now to be prodromal labour for just over 5 days … what really took me was your descriptions of contentment and excitement that even as a first time mum (which I am) you just felt your body knew what it was doing and took comfort in the process where everyone else around me seems to want to stress out and rush me into intervention “for my own sake”. I have this strange confidence that, as confusing and sometimes discouraging as this experience has been, I know Im doing something right and this can and will be one of the greatest experiences of my life. Reading your blog made me finally have a deep sigh of relief knowing Im not, in fact, crazy NOR am I imaginging things and I cant thank you enough for taking the time to put this out where someone like me can find it and rest easier waiting for my wee man to finally arrive
On a side note, my husband has been away working in the middle east for the past 6 weeks and was delayed at work (was meant to be home over 10 days ago; we live in Scotland) your comment about labour easing off when he was at work and coming stronger when you felt safe beside him brought tears to my eyes as Ive just had a feeling we are waiting for daddy to come home and the minute he has his arms around me (TOMORROW!!!) everything will be perfectly in place for a healthy happy birth, whenever that shall be
Apologies for the rant lol, as I said I dont normally do this … Thanks again … Nicole (Alexander’s Mummy)